If a person is born in a non-Christian family, and don't know God, is that fair?
First of all, the problem with that questions is it is senseless. Why? because you are asking to understand God. If you just be rational and think a little deeper, the answer is common sense.
a. God is infinitely complex, and we are not.
b. The problem of evil took the death of God's son to overcome.
What does that tell you? The battle of good and evil takes place at God's level. God showed it in the Bible this problem is not to be answered. God also in the Bible require you to obey without answers.
““For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the LORD.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your ways And My thoughts than your thoughts.”
God’s thoughts and logic are above our logic, so how can created understand the creator? When we demand that God make himself understandable, or we would not believe him, it becomes our arrogance talking.
The question of fairness
afterall has nothing to do with obedience to God. Your desire to obey God has
nothing to do with these questions if you are truly honest with yourself.
How do you prove that? Let say you found a bucket of gold coins worth $10 million while hiking in the Sierra Nevada mountains in California like Kagin and McCarthy did in 2014. Would you:
a) Refuse to take it. Complain to my lucky star why did it picked me to find it and not someone else?
b) Keep it!!!
Of course you are going to keep it and not ask questions. If you keep asking questions of why me? Chances are you don't really want the money.
Same with God. God allowed us to be with him forever and He forgave our sins. Worse day in heaven will be much better than $10 million dollars on earth any day. If you keep asking questions of whether God is fair, chances are the questions are really an excuse for something else that is keeping you from obeying God. You get over the hump much quicker by working on that something else instead. These questions are a diversion more than anything.
This is a statement from Romans:
“for though the twins were not yet born
and had not done anything good or bad, so that God’s purpose according
to His choice would stand, not because of works but because of Him who calls,
it was said to her, “THE OLDER WILL SERVE THE YOUNGER.” Just as
it is written, “JACOB I LOVED, BUT ESAU I HATED.”
What shall we say then? There is no injustice with God, is there? May it never be! For He says to Moses, “I WILL HAVE MERCY ON WHOM I HAVE MERCY, AND I WILL HAVE COMPASSION ON WHOM I HAVE COMPASSION.” So then it does not depend on the man who wills or the man who runs, but on God who has mercy. For the Scripture says to Pharaoh, “FOR THIS VERY PURPOSE I RAISED YOU UP, TO DEMONSTRATE MY POWER IN YOU, AND THAT MY NAME MIGHT BE PROCLAIMED THROUGHOUT THE WHOLE EARTH.” So then He has mercy on whom He desires, and He hardens whom He desires.”
Paul said God has predestined who he will have mercy on. That raised a troubling point that relates to similar questions many Christians and non-Christians have.
• What about those people in other countries that never had the gospel preached to them.
• What happens to the baby that died before it had a chance to hear the gospel?
• Those with same sex orientation say they are born that way. How can God judge them?
• Is gays follow God’s commandment, then is unfair they will never enjoy sex.
To humans, all these questions are very unfair. Paul then states the same complaint that many people have If it is God’s will some will be sinners, then:
Romans 9:19 “You will say to me then, “Why does He still find fault? For who resists His will?””
This is Paul’s answer:
“On the contrary, who are you, O man, who answers back to God? The thing molded will not say to the molder, “Why did you make me like this,” will it? Or does not the potter have a right over the clay, to make from the same lump one vessel for honorable use and another for common use? What if God, although willing to demonstrate His wrath and to make His power known, endured with much patience vessels of wrath prepared for destruction? And He did so to make known the riches of His glory upon vessels of mercy, which He prepared beforehand for glory, even us, whom He also called, not from among Jews only, but also from among Gentiles.”
What Paul is saying is let say you made a wooden barrel, you are free to put wine in it or garbage in it. The wodden barrel that is used for garbage would feel horrible for itself. The barrel maker has the right. So why can't God have the right to make anything?
We say God has to play by our rules on what is fair. And what if He does not? We say then God does not exist. We say the only God that exist is one that play by our rules.
Jesus said "Do not judge lest you be judged. For in the way you judge, you will be judged". We can judge God on how righteous He is. We can pronounce God to be unrighteous. We can sentence God to non-existance. In return, God will use the same standard to judge you. Are you a righteous person? Do you know God's mercy? You have sinned against God. You should be dead, but you are not. Why? God in His mercy allowed you to live. Do you treat your enemies in the same merciful way? Have you loved your enemy? If you sentence God to non-existance for being un-righteous, then by the same measure God will judge how righteous you are and you too will be sentence to non-existance.
Judge not that you be not judged. Is bad to judge another man, but to judge God???
The Impossible Faith
To non-believer, faith is comically silly. Attributes of God does not make sense, and the believer just use faith. How can someone just believe in something that have no grounds for prove. Faith itself is an impossible task. No man on earth has faith to believe in God's word. Faith is a spiritual attribute given by God to man. God has to give you faith to believe. Christians do not have the ability to just believe. Nobody does. How do you get that faith? Humble yourself and ask God for faith to believe his words. Seek and ye shall find, ask and ye shall receive. As you are asking for faith, do not rationalize the character of God. These questions lead you further from where you need to be to be humble enough to ask for faith.
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